Man of Sorrows

"...There was nothing beautiful or majestic about his appearance, nothing to attract us to him. He was despised and rejected—a man of sorrows, acquainted with deepest grief..." Is 53:2-3

"Then he said to them, "My soul is overwhelmed with sorrow to the point of death..." Mt 26:38

"that I may come to know him and the power of his resurrection, and partake of his sufferings by being moulded to the pattern of his death" Phil 3:10

Is it possible to know the real Jesus without experiencing his sorrow, loneliness, and pain?